“To live a brave life, you must believe you’re worthy of love and belonging. And a strong belief in our worthiness doesn’t just happen — it’s cultivated and practiced, with the intent of living a life defined by courage, compassion, and connection.” —Brené Brown
Change IS Possible!
At times, life presents us with circumstances that cause us to feel helpless and alone. We may even feel hopeless — like we’ll never feel whole, happy, and productive again. In some instances, we’ve inherited a genetic tendency we feel incapable of changing. Always, we have some deeply seated beliefs we inherited as children that no longer serve us yet keep reappearing and running our lives. We all have an inner critic to whom we give way too much airtime!
Compassion-Focused Therapy Can Help
“This revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime.” —Tara Brach
Developing inner resources through mindfulness and radical self-compassion tools and practices allows us to respond to our pain with acceptance rather than self-criticism. Self-compassion means that instead of judging ourselves for our mistakes, we are empathetic toward ourselves when confronted with our imperfections.
Self-compassion is a challenging practice for most people. It goes against our conditioning to ask for what we want rather than always putting others first. It is, however, a powerful way of healing wounds and shifting old patterns that separate us from others. This skill can help us meet life’s difficulties with wisdom and kindness, creating greater emotional stability and resilience so we are capable of recovering and progressing with more ease.
For more information and extensive research on this subject, please see the Resources page.
Compassion-focused counseling can help you cope with:
- an overactive inner critic
- grief and loss
- transitions and questions regarding life purpose
- stress-related and other health issues
- fear, negative patterns, thoughts, and beliefs
- relationship issues
You can begin to:
- connect to your inner resources
- become more responsive and less reactive in conflictual situations
- change your internal experience
- manage your mood and anxious thoughts
- rediscover love and acceptance for yourself and another
- handle a new life transition with grace
- calm your nervous system and manage stress
- gain strength and resiliency to cope with grief and rebuild after loss
- trust yourself to make healthy choices
- become more self-accepting and less self-critical
- create more intimacy and connection with others
There’s a mountain I keep trying to climb to find love. Why do I keep climbing the mountain when I’m already there? —Comment by a client
“Feeling loved and loving matters to us beyond all else.” —Tara Brach
Good relationships with yourself and others are at the heart of a well-balanced, joyful, healthy, and productive life. The difficulties that arise in creating healthy relationships — although painful — can be powerful opportunities for deep personal and spiritual growth. Click here to learn more about what may be preventing you from connecting more deeply with your partner.
Cost & Structure
The cost for an hour-long session is $100 for private pay.
I am a provider for the following insurance plans: Aetna, BlueCross BlueShield, Cigna, Pacific Source, Providence, and Reliant Behavioral Health EAP.
Schedule a Session
I offer a complimentary phone consultation to answer your questions and ensure we can develop a rapport that allows for the safety and trust necessary to explore and resolve issues. The counseling relationship is a significant one and works most effectively when there is commitment and the willingness to share honestly and openly. I’m dedicated to actively working with you at every session to meet your desired goals. Please call 541.488.4872 or email me with any questions or to book your first session.